by Ruth Purple
Face it, when it comes to giving a woman real orgasm is like being in the episode of CSI- elusive, mind-boggling and requires hard evidence. On the contrary, some cocky men brag that giving women real orgasm is like a walk in the park. But the truth of the matter is that, 75% of women cannot reach the climax and most likely, the same figure tends to fake their orgasm.
Does this mean that women, in reality, are harder to please? Or maybe 75% of men cannot help but ejaculate within 3 minutes or less, leaving their woman high and dry without ever reaching the climax. Clearly, the numbers above are nothing to be bragged about. If you want to know how to make a woman orgasm, you have to improve your "cliteracy" rate.
It occurs to us women, that majority of men know more about the hood of the truck than the hood of the clitoris. For starters, do you know where the clitoris is? Do you know that clitoris plays a significant role in orgasms, (take note: orgasmS) and can give orgasms with or without the sexual penetration? If this is something new to you, then you are definitely "ill-cliterate".
You better wise- up about women's sexual anatomy, if you want to be a knock-out in bed. Once you have done your research, giving your woman real orgasm is not as elusive anymore. To make sure that you are doing the right thing, here are some hard evidences of real orgasm.
Take notice of the heart rate and increased breathing pattern. Fakers and legitimate ones moan and groan and even clutch and scream, but the missing link between phony and genuine climax are the heart thumping and the breathing. The breathing pattern gets heavier and heavier, and when she is about to explode, there will be an immediate change in tension and rhythm, as well as the pace of her body movements.
Furthermore, they say that you can tell a lot by looking at the person's eyes. This time, looking at your partner's eyes, pupil- to be exact, you can tell if your partner is faking it or not. A dilated pupil is a sure-fire way to know if she is having an orgasm or not.
This can be quite tricky, because you need to have the lights on, and you need to take note of her pupils before they are dilated- to be more accurate. Nevertheless, it's worth it because she can never fake a dilated pupil. Another precise sign of real orgasm is the vaginal and cervical contractions.
During climax the woman experiences 3-10 muscle contractions, the first few contractions are usually the strongest. You will feel the soft grip of her vagina and the tightening experience is very hard to ignore. Further signs of real orgasm are arching of her back and uncontrollable twitches in her limbs and involuntary facial reactions.
She may also want to linger more in bed after the out-of-this-world climax, that's because the chemical effect of an orgasm leaves a woman's body in a daze, making her laze around the bed to enjoy the moment. Real orgasm also makes the woman's nipple hard and the clitoris ultra-sensitive after reaching the peak.
And finally, you know she is not faking it when she is incoherent enough to say "Oh my God!" ten times. Anything near porn-like sex is highly doubtful because porn-sex is rehearsed sex. If you want to give your partner a real orgasm, is about giving undivided attention and affection to her sexual needs.
About the Author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
